So I just read a post from my good friend Rosie's blog and I was inspired (thank you Rosie!). She talked about how her mom invented the 14 days of Valentine's. This was like an answer to a concern I have been having for a while now which I am sure most of you can sympathize with. Ever since the baby was born...okay ever since I got pregnant with the baby, I have noticed that I put my relationship with my husband on the back burner a lot. I am so busy with everything else that days go by without a conversation that has nothing to do with kids, money, bills, etc. I feel really bad because my husband is an amazing man, a wonderful father, and a capable provider and I don't think I tell him that enough. I mean, I know I don't tell him enough. And now with the baby my life is wrapped up in Jonathan, as it should be, but I neglect Andrew. I also find that with my exhaustion comes increased irritability and I am getting upset over stupid stuff every day and taking it out on Andrew too much. He is such a sweet man that most of the time he just stands there and takes it without saying anything, but lately he has been calling me on it and I know I need to knock it off. I could blame it on hormones and sleep deprivation, but that would be a cop-out so I won't. I am deciding tonight that no more will this be the case! Every year Andrew has done some amazing things for Valentine's for me and it is time that I returned the favor. A new tradition will be born in the house and here comes the 14 days of Valentine's so I can show my husband how much I love, adore, appreciate, want, and need him. I am hoping that this will help me to change my attitude and behavior and therefore improve and strengthen our relationship. I challenge each of you who want to, to join in and see how much fun we can have. Rosie's mom has put together a blog of ideas for valentines you can check out here--I can hardly wait to get started!
1.25.2009
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Toshia, you will love doing this. I look forward to doing this for
tom every year. We both love it. It is so fun to just focus on him for a couple days. I can't wait to hear how it goes for you.
What a sweet idea! And you are not alone, trust me. I was always amazed that Paul stuck around during those irritable, sleep deprived months.
Sounds like fun - I know he will apprieciate it!
Hey little mama...don't be too hard on yourself. Those first few months of baby, I am the biggest grump to my hubby. I have vowed to be better this time around...but who am I kidding. When you are getting 4.2 hours of sleep for weeks and weeks a person is bound to be a little short tempered. SO, give yourself a break!
With all that said...I think it is a really nice idea to make him feel special on V-day. What a sweet wife you are. I may have to try an idea or two!
Don't beat yourself up too much, it's typical behavior, not that it's good behavior, but it's normal for the man to come last. At least you regognize the problem and vow to change it. Alot of people don't even recognize it. Good luck in your efforts, and I will be checking out that blog for sure!
Sounds like fun!
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